Couples Counseling

Do you feel alone and uncared for in you relationship?

Do you feel you losing your connection to your partner?  

Is immigration bringing you apart?

Do you avoid bringing up certain topics with your partner because you're afraid of starting a fight?

Do you feel under attack? 

Do you have never ending arguments?

Do you feel hunted by your past experiences and not not knowing how to build a different relationship?

Our relationships are our most important resource in life and our best investment. Every study shows that when we feel emotionally connected and safe we are happier and healthier, we are better parents, better professionals, and our children do better emotionally, physically, intellectually and relationally. However, when our relationship is unstable, everything else tends to feel dangerous and cloudy.

Integrating different evidenced-based modalities - Gottman Method; Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT); Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) - I provide a safe environment to help couples with the following:

• to identify their protective strategies that might be keeping them out of connection with themselves and with their partner;

• to make sense of their protective strategies: i.e. where they came from and how these strategies have good intentions despite destructive outcomes in the present moment;

• to learn to reduce their reactivity and develop new skills for speaking, listening and behaving in ways that can foster safer, courageous, and more open-hearted conversations and interactions;

• to heal old wounds that might be burdening the relationship;

• to build new pathways for safer, mature, differentiated, connecting and functional relationship with them themselves individual and with their partner; or,

• to help couples separate with integrity and respect, if that is their aim.

One of my specialities is working with intercultural couples. While the differences may have drawn you to each other in the first place, language, culture, and immigration/expatriation often enters their negative cycle, creates more conflicts and contributes to relationship distress.

I welcome all couples: straight, gay, lesbian, bi or any other configuration.  Research tells us that issues facing couples of different sexual identities are, in fact, very similar to heterosexual relationships.

Process wise, we will first meet once to twice together. Then, I meet individually with each of you to get each person’s perspective on the problems, resources and goals. Afterwards, we will meet together again and I will share with you my impressions. Finally, we will decide together whether we are a good match and what the goals of therapy would be.

Reach out to schedule a consultation and begin moving toward a more authentic and fulfilling relationship!